Anal play is something that’s on a lot of couples’ lists. According to the National Health Statistics study, 36% of women and 44% of men have tried some form of anal play. These figures suggest that heterosexuals are becoming more open to the idea of anal stimulation, with one in three women and almost half of the population of men having already started exploring the joys of anal play.
When it comes to comfortable, pleasurable anal sex, the smallest of adjustments can make a huge difference. With a huge variety of sex positions described both online and in the Kama Sutra, people are always interested in learning new ways to have sex. However, when it comes to anal play, many assume that the same positions that are good for vaginal sex will be good for anal too. This isn’t always the case.
So what are the best positions, especially if you’re just starting to explore anal sex?
Cowgirl
This position is one of the most pleasurable for women. Why? Because it lets her control the speed and depth of penetration that works for her. You can either get your partner to straddle and face you, or face away, whichever works best for you. When your partner faces away, the angle you will get from this position is guaranteed to bring you more pleasure than you would get from most positions. Try alternating between having her knees bent upwards and having her knees on the bed. When she’s more comfortable, get her to arch her back slightly – this will change the angle and will make this position even more enjoyable.
If you’d like it to be a bit more intimate, get your partner sit up against the headboard so you are face-to-face. This position gives the benefits of communication, kissing and getting to watch your partner moan and groan as she rocks on top.
Spooning
This position is great for beginners – it is highly flexible, comfortable and accommodating to couples of varying sizes. Lie behind your partner and hold her top leg up and gently enter her from behind. This position leaves your hands free to play and stimulate and tease other important parts. Take it slowly and gently rock your way to an orgasm.
The penetration is shallower here, and women tend to find that bending and stretching their upper legs away from their body helps open the external sphincter a little and keeps them feeling relaxed. If you feel like things are getting a little twisted, simply get your partner to lie on her stomach and shallowly thrust while lying on top.
Doggy Style
No list of anal sex positions would be complete without this one! When it comes to classic anal positions, we automatically think of doggy style and taking a woman for behind. This is in fact, one of the hardest positions to master as the angle is a little trickier to achieve. Doggy style leaves you in control, so you need to be aware of how much your partner can take. Communication is key for determining when the rhythm and speed can be picked up and slowed down, if needed. When going from behind, get your partner to angle her pelvis slightly with a few pillows under her. This will make the angle of penetration easier to access, and will ultimately cause the least discomfort. The angle of penetration will be deep so use plenty of lube and start slow and gentle.
Doggy style is a prime position for letting things get a little kinky. Spanking, with your hand, flogger or paddle, will take things to the next level. Introducing a mirror or two to the bedroom will allow you to watch your partner getting off on the fun and will certainly spice things up a little – who doesn’t love a bit of voyeurism?
Bend-Over Bliss
If you’re looking to try something a little kinky, look no further. This position has a classic, porn-feel to it which couples seem to love, but is still easy enough for beginners. Have your partner stand with her back to you, then ben slightly while using furniture (or a wall) for support. Being taken from behind while bending over is super sexy, and has a tendency to make the receiver weak at the knees…in a good way! Similar to doggy style, this position leaves you in control – so start off slowly, communicate regularly, and let her moans and groans guide you.
As with any kind of sex, it’s all about finding ways to be creative and fun. All of the positions mentioned above can be altered by using props, toys, and hands in different combinations, so it’s time to get adventurous. Just remember to communicate and take things slowly, it’s definitely worth the effort!