With over a third of Westerners having tried it, anal penetration is a kink that is becoming more popular than ever in the bedroom. When undertaken correctly, anal sex can really enhance your sex life. The anus is packed with nerve ending that are receptive to stimulation and can result in anal orgasms for both men and women.
When it comes to anal toys, there’s a great variety of super sexy, super kinky toys for men to choose from. The sole purpose of these toys is to massage your prostate – so be prepared for a mind blowing orgasm!
Does Anal Sex Hurt?
If you’ve ever had an unpleasant medical exam with an anal examination, you may think that all anal play feels like that. The truth is that people are nervous when they go to the doctor and tend to clench up a bit. Clenching is one of the worst things you can do to start anal play – so before going any further, you need to take some time to relax.
Anal Hygiene
When it comes to anal sex, one of the biggest turn offs is the thought of the mess that can occur post-penetration. Anal sex can be messy, but good anal hygiene will address most of those concerns. First, empty your bowels at least 30 minutes before you start. If you’re looking for a more thorough clean, we recommend buying an Anal Douche (€ 16.80, kinky.ie). These are affordable, easy to use, and will loosen any debris and ensure your passage is clear. Douching takes a little getting used to, but it’s worth it – it can really enhance your anal play.
This may sound obvious, but make sure you clean your anal toys thoroughly after every use. This is even more important if you share your toys with your partner (after all, most anal toys are unisex…and sharing is caring). There are products available that are marketed as sex toy cleaners, however, hot soapy water will also do the trick.
Choosing The Right Toy
Anal toys are both enjoyable and easy to use. Nevertheless, there’s a few things to take into consideration before purchasing your first toy. Firstly, buy from a respected store and if possible, check the quality of the toy before purchasing. Choose a toy that is made from plastic or silicone, and avoid toys that are made from wood or glass at all costs. Anal toys are generally broader at the base to prevent it for being sucked too far into the rectum – keep this in mind when browsing, to avoid any nasty surprises later on. Next, you should look at the size and shape of the toy. Start with something smooth and small, about the size and shape of a finger, and let your anus adjust to the size of the item.
Before you get to the checkout, make sure that you buy plenty of lube. The anus and rectum don’t lubricate on their own, so they need a little help. Lube will reduce friction and will make the experience far more pleasurable. There’s a variety of anal lubes available, but any lube will do the job. Just make sure you apply plenty of it before the fun begins.
When it comes to anal toys, the three main categories are – butt plugs, anal dildos, and anal beads. Each of these toys will stimulate the prostate directly or indirectly, so there’s no right or wrong toy. It is simply a matter of preference.
Top Techniques
Like any sexual practice, anal play requires foreplay. Anal fingering is a good way for beginners to kick things off – start by exploring the area around the anus. Slowly insert a (lubed) finger, hold it, and then slowly drag the finger out. You are in control here, so only go as far as you feel comfortable. Take your time – with patience, practice, and lashings of lube you’ll soon get used to the feeling. When you’re comfortable and ready, there are a variety of anal toys designed with beginners in mind.
The Finger Rimmer Set (€ 14.0, kinky.ie) is great for beginners looking to work their way up. The set contains three plugs; starting with small and going bigger when you’re ready for more. These plugs are soft, beautifully tapered, and have rings at the base for greater control. When you’ve mastered the smaller toys, moving onto something like the Remote Control Beaded Prober (€ 42.02, kinky.ie) will allow you to slowly increase girth, length, and speed. Just remember to keep the lube coming!
This hidden pleasure zone deserves to be explored, but anal sex isn’t for everyone. If it’s not floating your boat, then don’t feel like you have to continue. As with other kinks, some people love it and some people hate it.