Role play is about much more than indulging your long-held and unspoken fantasy about the that teacher who once gave you detention. What makes role-playing so attractive and exciting is that you and your partner get to be anyone you want, and as inhibitions slowly decrease you will begin discussing and exploring situations and practices that you might not normally broach. Role-play could be the kinky element that’s missing from what may otherwise be a very enriching sex life – so, why not give it a go?
It Takes Two to Role Play
You may have been thinking about dressing up for a while, but your partner’s not always going to be on the same wavelength. Avoid turning up at the door dressed as policeman and attempting to handcuff your partner to a chair – this is not the kind of surprise that is likely to get them in the mood. If you know what you want, discuss it. Explain exactly what you want to happen and what you’re after – it’ll make it easier to improvise rather than just winging it and hoping for the best!
Not sure what you’re after? Discuss what you want to get out of role playing. Do you want shake up your routine, but aren’t necessarily comfortable with donning a full costume? Want to experiment with bondage? Identifying your desires will help you decide on a scenario that works well for you both.
Props and Toys
So now you and your partner know exactly what you want your role play to involve, it’s time to choose your costume and toys. With all the accessories available, role-playing can get expensive. Try being creative; for example, buy a set of Fetish Fantasy handcuffs (€ 10.39, kinky.ie) and a fake revolver, but don’t feel the need to buy the whole outfit. With just a couple of props you could be the cop who arrests the criminal for “indecent exposure.” Handcuff them to the staircase/bed post/chair and rub their body down slowly with the gun until they’re screaming to be un-cuffed.
When it comes to choosing costumes, pick a style that you’ll be comfortable in. If you’re arm conscious, opt for a costume with sleeves like the Kitten Wetlook Mesh Dress (€ 34.65, kinky.ie). If you want to flaunt your cleavage, choose something with a plunging neckline like the Babydoll Maid (€ 23.05, kinky.ie). Choosing a costume that you feel comfortable in will help you feel the most confident during your play.
Role Playing Suggestions
Dance Show
This can work both ways, depending on how confident you’re feeling! A private dance show doesn’t require much acting, which is perfect for those trying it for the first time. As far as props go, some sexy underwear and stockings are always fun! We recommend: Coup De Foudre Dress (€ 40.44, kinky.ie) and Sheer Thigh High Stockings (€ 8.08, kinky.ie).
The fun part is that you can laugh and have a good time, without having to take it too seriously. Turn the music up loud enough so that you can’t hear each other talk, which cuts out the dialogue and reduces the embarrassment for many beginners. Basically, it will keep things sexy, fun and exciting!
Lingerie Photographer
You’re a lingerie photographer on a shoot with a top model, and you’ve been given the task of getting some of the sexiest shots possible. First of all, you both need to discuss whether you use a real camera or not. Not all of us enjoy having actual pictures taken, and there’s always the worry of the pictures getting into the wrong hands. You could always use a real camera and agree to delete the pictures after viewing them together afterwards. This is something that should be discussed beforehand.
During the shoot, provide prompts and suggest poses that you’d like her to make. That way, there’s less pressure on you partner to continually come up with sexy poses. Let your imagination run wild!
Teacher Pupil
This won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but mini-skirts and spanking can be very sexy. As with ‘Dance Show’, the roles are easily reversible. If your partner likes to be in control, she can be a disciplinarian head mistress who needs to punish the “naughty” school boy for his bad behaviour. If you want to turn it up a notch, she could make you write down and repeat those dirty sentences you were caught saying. The more traditional option is the mini skirted school girl who has been sent to the head master after refusing to conform to school dress policy. We recommend: Prep School Uniform (€ 32.34, kinky.ie) and Fantasy Corporate Cutie (€ 46.21, kinky.ie) for a sexy headmistress costume.
You have to be confident to try this particular scenario, and I usually suggest building up to it with some of the other less ‘acting’ types of role-play first. Spanking is optional, but always fun!