Sex is good….but kinky is better!
We already know that sex has many health benefits – it reduces pain, it gives your heart a boost and makes you feel happier – so there’s plenty of reasons to get it on. But did you know that there’s a whole world of additional health benefits…if you’re willing to get a little kinky, that is! Here’s just some of the reasons you should consider spicing things up in the bedroom.
It’s great for your mental well-being
A recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that people who practices BDSM on a regular basis were more confident, less neurotic, and had an overall better sense of well-being than people who were less adventurous. The theory behind this is that kinky people have better communication skills and are more open about their feelings, emotions, and desires.
They are also more aware of their own psychology, and are comfortable with the fact that they desires may not be the norm. Such awareness results in peace of mind, mental well-being, and all around happiness.
You don’t have to order whips and chains to reap the benefits – any sort of experimentation can lead to higher levels of well-being and sexual satisfaction. There’s no need to go way out of our comfort zone; something manageable, like a new position or gentle spanking could do the trick.
Swallowing is good for you
No, really!
A study by Leiden University Medical Center in the Netherlands found that women who swallowed had lower incidences of miscarriages, pre-eclampsia, and morning sickness during pregnancy. Dutch researchers believe this may be the result of exposure to the father’s DNA. They are more certain, however, that this is linked to the body’s well-known ability to adapt and tolerate things better when they’re ingested.
If that’s not reason enough; new research in the scientific community has revealed that oral ingestion of sperm can also combat depression and aid sleeping, due to hormones present in seminal fluids.
Swallowing isn’t for everyone. However, if it’s the flavour of your man that’s the problem, there are some solutions. Sperm already contains its own natural sweetener, fructose, and so sexperts suggest men eat more fruits with natural sugars to enhance the sweetness of their ejaculate. Ingesting mint or cinnamon can also enhance the flavour. Finally, men should drink plenty of water to flush out any toxins, which could be contributing to a salty or bitter taste. Experimenting will be part of the fun!
Ejaculate often
The Journal of the American Medical Association published a study that found a correlation between those who ejaculated often and a lower risk of prostate cancer. The researchers concluded that men who came twenty-one times or more a month were less likely to get cancer, whether through masturbation or through penetration.
Spanking is fun (and can make you happier!)
A good spanking could be just what the doctor ordered
Spanking, or any kind of pain, releases endorphins, the body’s natural ‘happy chemicals’, which leads to feelings of euphoria, an enhancement of the immune response, and the release of sex hormones. It’s not just the release of endorphins that makes you feel great. The Pudendal Nerve connects erotic stimulation of both male and female genitals to/from the same area in the spinal cord, and so the sensations received during a spanking are processed in the same way as those received during penetration and orgasms.
Don’t worry if you have a low pain tolerance – you can still have fun. A properly administered spanking will cause the body to physiologically accept & enjoy a spanking. It only becomes painful when the pain dealt is greater than the pleasure felt; so communicating with your partner is key. Start with using hands only, and work your way up to toys and accessories as you both become more comfortable. As with all aspects of BDSM, establish a safe word that will stop all activity once called out.
Don’t be afraid to experiment
The key to a happy sex life is to break the routine once in a while. We’re not suggesting a new toy or location every time, but introducing new positions and techniques from time to time will keep the passion alive. According to the U.S National Survey of Sexual Health, switching it up a little will not only increase your sexual satisfaction, but will lead to more frequent and better orgasms. Need any more reasons?
Suggest some ideas to you partner, browse through positions together. There are plenty of ideas available online. Why not read the Kinky.ie blog on the top ten kinky positions? There will certainly be some great ideas in there.
Remember, there’s plenty of ways to spice things up!