The internet has opened us up to the crazy world of fetishes, but with new crazes developing regularly, we thought we’d give you a glimpse into just some of the kinks and fetishes out there. Whether you’re looking to expand your sexual knowledge, or your sexual repertoire, this list will give you a few tips and ideas to start you off.
A: Aftercare
An essential part of all kink play – Once a BDSM play scene has ended, it hasn’t really ended – the intimate and emotional connections will still be there, and so aftercare is important for everyone involved. Aftercare doesn’t need to be overly sentimental or grand, it just needs to be an intentional display of appreciation and acknowledgment that will ensure you and your partner return to an everyday state of mental, emotional, and physical steadiness.
B: Breathe Play
Breathe play, autoerotic asphyxia, sexual hanging.these are all terms to describe the practice of inducing cerebral hypoxia, while masturbating to orgasm. This kink is incredibly dangerous, with 31% of all adolescent hanging deaths within the past 10 years connected to breathe play.
If done safely and correctly, it is incredibly sexy and can enhance an orgasm. And so it one of the most controversial topics in the kink community. We recommend that for those who want to try breathe play – make sure someone is nearby in case things go wrong. The reduced blood flow can cause weakness and drowsiness, hampering the ability to release oneself afterwards.
C: CBT
Cock and Ball torture, or CBT, is the act of crushing, squeezing, or stretching the area around the penis. What’s the appeal? Being the most sensitive parts of the body, the area is full of nerve endings that release a wave of endorphins when stimulated. The effect is similar to that of codeine or morphine – an incredible rush and a ‘natural high’. The increased blood flow to the area makes it incredibly sensitive, enhancing your sexual experience and resulting in multiple mind-blowing orgasms.
Want to give it a go and don’t know where to start? A cockring, like the Soft Silicone Cockring (€ 7.61, kinky.ie), plays with some basic ideas and sensations with very few risks. The ring is placed at the base of the penis which prolongs erections and holds back ejaculation.
D: Domination
Domination – everyone has heard of it, but how many of you have tried it? It’s more than just putting on a leather catsuit and spanking your partner; it’s about staying in control while your other half feels vulnerable (but still safe and excited). There are many different ways to dominate in the bedroom, and with numerous guides available online it’s worth browsing through them and discussing what you and your partner want from the experience.
E: Electrosex
Electrosex promises to deliver shocking results every time! The human body is mainly made up of water, meaning it is an excellent conductor of electricity. As the electricity passes through the nerve endings, it will tantalise, tickle and tease those senses. A fun and kinky way to explore the pleasure/pain boundary.
Want to give your sex life a charge? The Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy (€ 48.30, kinky.ie) is an incredible beginner’s electro-sex kit.
F: Fleshlights
Fleshlights have quickly become one of the most popular male masturbation toys on the market. Aimed at both heterosexuals and homosexuals, Fleshlights are realistic, hygienic and discreet masturbation sleeves. Looking for something a little special? Fleshlights have created their own porn-line, with products cast from the vagina or anus of popular porn stars. So there’s something for everyone!
Looking for a seductive and inviting mouth to play in? The Fleshlight Pink Mouth (€ 60.38, kinky.ie) is made from soft, pliable, and high-quality material that is designed to replicate the unmistakeable sensations of oral sex.
G: Golden Showers
Many of you may remember the Sex and the City episode where Carrie deliberates over whether to let her lover pee on her – well it’s an increasingly popular kink. Of course, this isn’t for everyone and is something that you and your partner should discuss beforehand. However, if it’s something that ticks the right boxes for you both then we recommend trying it in the shower or bath first – there’ll be less mess to deal with afterwards!