The internet has already opened us up to the crazy world of fetishes, but with new crazes developing regularly, we thought we’d compile an A-Z of the most common kinks out there. Whether you’re looking to expand your sexual knowledge, or your sexual repertoire, this list will give you a few tips and ideas to start you off. Happy browsing!
R: Rimming
Rimming is an increasingly popular kink, which involves stimulate your partner’s anus with your mouth. This is great for those who aren’t quite ready for anal penetration, as it still stimulates all the right spots.
S: Scat Play
Not for the fainthearted!
Scat is the practice of excreting, and for some eating, faeces; giving a whole new meaning to the term “sexual appetite”. The enjoyment of faeces can be from its smell, its taste, or from taking part in something totally taboo and usually off-limits!
As sexy as it may be, taking a dump on someone without first consulting them is not going to end well. As will all aspects of kinky sex; communication is key! Take the time to talk through all the scenarios and ask as many questions as you need beforehand.
T: Talking Dirty
Talking dirty is one of the simplest of kinks, and yet many of us struggle with it. There are plenty of articles online that deal with the issues some of us have with opening up and allowing ourselves to push back all the boundaries. There’s no need to go over the top and use vocabulary that makes you, and potentially your partner, feel uncomfortable. Instead, why not start by telling your partner what you’re enjoying and what you’d like her to do next? Keep it simple, and keep it tasteful; saying something inappropriate will only kill the mood and leave you feeling silly.
U: Uniforms
Who doesn’t love a man or woman in uniform? What makes role-playing so exciting is that you and your partner get to explore each other’s fantasies and be whoever you want. There’s no need to splash out on the whole uniform; buy the essentials and improvise with props at home. And remember, it’s ok to laugh – having fun is just as important as being sexy!
V: Voyeurism
Voyeurism involves the act of observing someone in the process of undressing or engaging in a sexual activity. Although it is often linked with stories of old men perving on young girls, when used correctly, voyeurism can certainly spice things up in the bedroom. Why not get your partner to slowly undress for you? Or better still, if she’s feeling confident, ask her to masturbate as you watch her. It’ll make her feel good about herself, and watching your girl get herself all worked up will leave you desperate to help her…
W: Whips
Whips are super sexy, but they can also be extremely dangerous when misused. For those new to flogging; avoid using thin whips such as bullwhips and tightly braided cats, and whips made of rubber, which are likely to cut. Instead opt for something short and thick that is less likely to cut the skin. We recommend testing the whip on your hand or arm before purchasing – to get a feel for it.
X: X-Rated
X-rated entertainment has become a hot topic of research. A recent research conducted at Kinsey Institute at the University of Indiana shows that the body part that men focus on while watching porn is the woman’s face, especially her eyes and lips, and not her more intimate parts. The same is true of women who watch porn.
Why not choose a porn movie to watch together and try re-enacting some of the scenes? Gentle foreplay during the film will also shake things up a little.
Y: Yaori
Yaoi is a type of anime, manga, or fan fiction, originating in Japan that focuses on male-on-male sexuality. The term comes from the Japanese phrase “Yama nashi, Ochi nashi, Imi nashi,” which translates as “no climax, no meaning, no point.” There are Yaoi films, fan fiction, artworks, magazines and more available; all depicting erotic and often super-kinky encounters.
Z: The Zen Pause
The Zen Pause sex position provides a quiet moment in the middle of the mattress madness.
It can be found in the Karma Sutra, and is great for those looking to slow things down in the bedroom. When you and your partner are close to orgasming, stop what you’re doing and roll on your sides, both facing each other. Try to stay inside her as you do this. Then put the passion on a low simmer and gently rock back and forth – focusing more on kissing, running your hands through her hair and kissing her neck. Slowly build back up to a mind blowing orgasm.