Oral sex is one of the most satisfying sexual acts that you can perform on, or receive from, your partner. There are plenty of articles written about how to give mind-blowing blow jobs. Yet when it comes to oral advice for men, there seems to be a gap in information. Obviously, every girl has a different set of preferences, but if you keep the following points in mind, you’ll likely give the best oral of her life.
1) Don’t Neglect the Clitoris
The clitoris has around 8,000 nerve endings. Think of it as a tiny penis with double the senses; so you can imagine how incredibly sensitive it is, and how amazing it feels when it’s stimulated in the right way!
2) No Two Women Are the Same
So, your ex liked a lot of suction? Forget what she told you; what she liked, what she didn’t like, or what she lied about liking. Vaginas are like snowflakes. No two are exactly alike.
If you want to please your partner, then you need to ask them what they like and don’t like. Feedback is vital if you want to give the best possible oral. One way of doing this is getting your partner to direct you a little, so you spend more time doing whatever it is that ticks the right boxes for her.
3) Start Slow
If she’s not relaxed, she’s not going to enjoy it. Take your time exploring her body and make it clear that you’re not in a rush to get it over with. Kiss her neck and collar bone, then work your way down to her nipples, navel, and thighs.
When you’ve arrived at where you want to be, there’s no need to dive straight in there. Start with some soft kisses and work your way up to the tongue; gently lick her from the vagina to the clit, stopping to roll your tongue around her clit.
4) Think Outside the Box
Oral sex can be more than just licking the clit, so try involving all your partners’ hot spots. Keep in mind that the clitoral nerves extend into the hood. When your partner has a clitoral erection, you will be able to feel that the clit extends way further back. Gently lick the length of the clit for added pleasure. Penetration during oral is also very satisfying, so try sliding a couple of fingers in and out of her vagina as you’re licking her clitoral area. Tired hands? Toys work just as well!
5) Control the Suction
When it comes to oral sex, sucking is part of the fun. However, there is a fine line between pleasure and discomfort. Generally, women don’t enjoy a lot of suction – the sensation can often be too intense for them to enjoy. Of course, everyone is different so talking through what you and your partner like/don’t like will help. When experimenting with suction, start off very gently and gauge your partner’s reaction before applying any more force.
6) Pay Attention to Her Responses
Is she moving away? If so, ease up. Is she pushing into you? She likes what you’re doing and might want more. It’s OK to ask questions, too. There’s no need to draw up a questionnaire; a simple, “Do you like that?” will do.
7) Keep It Varied
Variation is the key to a healthy and satisfying sex life, so don’t be afraid to suggest or introduce new techniques or toys to the bedroom. Oral sex can be enhanced by using sex toys alongside your mouth. Wearing butt plugs or anal beads during will improve the intensity of the orgasm. Using a dildo or vibrator to penetrate your partner, while you concentrate on the clit, will have a similar effect.