Have you ever heard of pegging?
Pegging is when a woman wears a strap-on and performs anal sex on her male partner. The name came from a poll conducted by Dan Savage a few years ago – a reader wrote in asking for a word to describe this, then unnamed, kinky practice – and pegging was the winning choice.
Pegging is not for everyone, and it is certainly not something you want to bust out as a romantic surprise. However, it can be really hot for those who already know the joys of anal aplay and want to explore their roles in bed.
What Equipment Do You Need?
A good harness, a harness compatible dildo, lashings of lube, and a playful attitude! The specifics of what kind of dildo and harness you choose will depend on your personal preference.
There are four different types of harness to choose from: there is the two strap harness, which tends to be the most popular option. This allows the wearer to simply step into the straps, pull it up and fasten at the waist – it is easy to use and keeps your back side open and free for easy access. There is also the thong option, which looks exactly as it sounds! It is very similar to the two strap, the main difference being that there’s no easy access to the back. The double penetration strap is the go-to for the more experienced strap-on enthusiasts – it features a dildo, or vibrator, that they can insert while they are pegging their partner. The fourth option is the full coverage strap on, which is worn like underwear. These provide the most stability when thrusting and for that reason they tend to be the most popular choice for beginners. Whichever type you choose, keep in mind that a more cushioned or padded harness will provide both extra comfort and support.
Some strap-ons come with an attached dildo; this is a great all-in-one option, but doesn’t allow for variety or for you to swap anything if your partner isn’t enjoying that particular dildo. Getting separate pieces is more expensive, but will ensure that everything fits properly and gives you and your partner options to explore together. A separate harness will come with interchangeable d-rings that allow you to select and place different sized dildos, or vibrators, within the harness (this also makes cleaning a breeze). As always, when choosing the right dildo or vibrator, be sure to buy one that is made from body safe materials like silicone, metal, or hard plastic. We recommend using silicone, as it is non-porous and sterilisable (important for those who regularly indulge in anal play).
How to Strap it On?
Believe it or not, there is a right way and a wrong way to wear a strap-on. In order to get the most from your strap-on, you need to have it secured in the correct position. The straps of the harness need to be loose enough to allow you freedom of movement; however if it continually slips down or the dildo is pointing downwards from your body, the straps need tightening. The dildo should always be pointing straight ahead or slightly up – a drooping dildo is harder to control. To get the best experience for you and your partner, the dildo should be situated directly over your pubic bone.
Bend Him Over
Once you are strapped in, it is time to get kinky. The best position for the beginner is with him bent over something that is less than waist height; a desk, the bed, a chair…This will force his ass in the air where you can get to it easily, allowing for the most comfortable entry. This position will also give him something to hang on to so you don’t accidentally knock him over when his knees go weak!
Before entry, apply a generous amount of lube to the head and shaft of the strap on and around your partners’ anus. A good way to get him in the mood is to massage the lube into his anus with a finger or too – this will also help relax his sphincter.
To insert the dildo, steady it with one hand and guide the head of the dildo directly into his anus and gently push it inside. Once the head is inside him, pause and let him get used to the feeling of having something up there. This may be as far as this session goes, or he may be able to take more – be patient and listen to what your partner has to say. Once he’s comfortable, you can start being a bit more aggressive with your thrusting—but only if he’s ready.