It’s easy to see why spanking has become such a hit. It can take you on a journey of sensations from warm and gentle, to thrilling spikes of pleasure and orgasmic release. Not only does it increase the blood flow to the nearby genitals and cause a spike in adrenaline, it also stimulates the nerve endings and increases sexual arousal.
Spanking can seem a little daunting at first, but with the right technique and practice, it can create the sexual intensity that you and your partner crave. Not only does it increase the blood flow to the nearby genitals and causes a spike in adrenaline, it stimulates the nerve endings, increases sexual arousal and is guaranteed to shake up your sex life. So, what are you waiting for?!
Safety First
As with any form of kink, there is a risk of injury. To reduce the chance of bruises, stick to more muscular or fatty areas of the body, such as the buttocks and upper thighs.
To limit swelling and reduce pain, apply an ice pack to the area for around 30 minutes after the scene has ended. Continue to do this a few times a day until the swelling has completely gone. If the bruises have not vanished after four weeks, make an appointment with your GP to check that you haven’t strained or damaged the muscles.
When trying any kind of BDSM play for the first time, it is important to pick a safe word. A word that both of you agree on that won’t accidentally slip out during the fun. Likewise, a few key words can be established to signal that you need to slow down, be gentler, and so on – of course, you can simply say “slow down” but some get caught up in the moment and don’t realise what their partner is asking until they go too far. Using a word like “Doorknob” is more likely to bring you back into the moment.
Talk About Intensity
Alongside picking a safe word, you also need to communicate with your partner before, during, and afterward. Use touch to get a feel for your partner’s preferred intensity and ask them what their pain threshold is like? Try a few practice rounds to learn what their comfort level is. And even after you’ve laid out ground rules and established a safe word, pay attention.
Warm up
You may have been wanting to try this for a while, but surely after waiting this long you can wait a little longer? Don’t rush in – spend some time on foreplay. If your partner isn’t aroused, a firm smack on the bottom is likely to hurt more than anything else.
Warming up is vital – not only will it get the bum nice and ready for what’s coming, but it will also drive your partner crazy with anticipation! Start by gently massaging the area in a circular motion and squeeze the skin to increase blood flow. Then try some light swats with the palm of your hand until the area is a rosy pink colour – this means the bum is ready for a firmer spanking. You can always pro-long the foreplay by rubbing and caressing the area after each swat, the combination of sensations will intensify the situation and drive your partner wild. If you decide to spank another area such as the hands, feet or breasts, be sure to keep the hits swift and gentle.
If you’re new to impact play, start with your hands, because they’re easily accessible and won’t hurt your wallet. Erotic spanking can be enjoyed as part of role play, during intercourse, or as part of a punishment in a BDSM scenario.
Play with various techniques, pressures and rhythms to see what your partner does and doesn’t enjoy. Try cupping your hand slightly with your fingers together, and spank lightly in an upward motion. Once you’ve become comfortable with the spanking, play with pressures and rhythms to see what your partner does and doesn’t enjoy.
If you want to take spanking even further, invest in a paddle or flogger. This will allow a greater range of movement and the different texture will give you some unique sensations too. Only move on to these when both of you feel ready. Always take the time to check that you are both comfortable with what’s going on and that you remember your safe word.
Best Positions for Spanking
When it comes to spanking; anything goes! While it’s best to start with gentle slaps on the bottom, there are a variety of spanking positions to try. For those combining role-play and spanking, use props to your advantage. Try over the knee, stooped over a chair, or across a table – this is ideal for those using short range implements. For those feeling a little kinky, get your partner on all fours, or try with their hands tied. Keep in mind that the muscles and skin are stretched whilst on all fours, so the sensations are much more intense!