Every relationship will go through sex ruts; whether it’s due to night shifts, extra pressure at work, or the kids – the pressure is on to fit in as much as we can into the little free time we have. As a result, our sex lives often take the backseat. Well, it’s time to put an end to this. The secret to great sex is to keep it fresh and exciting, and using toys and props is one of the easiest ways to spice up.
A recent survey concluded that over 70% of the couples interviewed enjoyed introducing new toys and props to the bedroom, and felt that these lead to a better and more varied sex life. There are plenty of products out there that touch on every fantasy, desire, and kink out there. So, whether you love sadistic spanking or are looking to give anal a go – there’s something for everyone.
Safety First
When it comes to BDSM toys, it’s important to take extra care. Never make unrealistic demands of your body (or your partners), and always go for props and toys that you are both comfortable with and can ease yourself in slowly. Listen to your body and/or your partner and stop immediately if either of you experience any pain – this is when a safe word comes in handy. Always use plenty of lube, making sure it is compatible with your chosen toy.
Vacuum Twist Suckers (€22.96, kinky.ie)
Like an eager mouth, these nifty little toys suck the nipples. They are easy to use; simply twist to adjust the suction to your preference. You can go from gentle sucking to high powered vacuum with a couple of twists! If used for a few minutes, the suckers will increase the blood flow to the area, leading to increased sensitivity and causing the nipple to feel more erect.
Fetish Fantasy Ball Gag Training System (€22.96, kinky.ie)
Nervous about ball gags? Don’t say a word, we’ve got you covered!
The training system is perfect for beginners who are new to being gagged, yet versatile enough to satisfy a pro. You can start with a small gag and gradually build your way up to the largest of the three balls. Each ball is also fitted with holes to make breathing easier; so it’ll put any nervous minds at ease. Each gag is interchangeable using the snaps, made from non-toxic plastic and fitted with holes to make breathing easy. The sturdy black leather strap easily adjusts to fit most sizes, giving you instant control over when, and how often, your lover speaks.
When using the ball gag – slide it in gently, giving your partner a moment to adjust before you secure the straps. If your partner complains that their jaw is aching, it means you’ll need something smaller. Once the ball is in, they’ll be unable to talk, so you’ll need to pay extra attention to her body language to make sure they’re not in any pain or distress.
More Great Toys
Leather Flogger with Wooden Handle (€40.19, kinky.ie)
Explore your dominant or submissive side with this beautiful leather flogger. . These won’t be as hard-core as whips or a rubber flogger, but instead will strike the perfect balance between pleasure and pain. The soft leather strands can be used to gently tickle and stimulate your partner’s body – or it can deliver a swift sting with just a flick of the wrist.
Before using a flogger, take some time to arouse your partner – the more aroused they become, the less sensitive their body will be. Start with some gentle foreplay and slowly introduce the flogger by gliding it across your partner’s most sensitive spots. Once they’re moaning with pleasure, lightly flick the flogger against somewhere cushioned like their buttocks or outer thighs. If they groan with pleasure, keep going. If not, return to foreplay and continue to test the waters.
Shock Therapy Fantasy Wand (€57.41, kinky.ie)
Want to know why there’s such a buzz about electrosex? It’s a kinky way to explore the pleasure and pain boundaries.
The Shock Therapy Fantasy Wand is perfect for those new to electro-stimulation. The wand sends waves of pleasurable tingling through anything it touches. Easy to use; press the + button to power the unit on, and use the + and – buttons to cycle through 9 levels of intensity, going from a sensuous tingle to a throbbing tap in seconds. To power the unit off, cycle back to 0 and it will power off in three seconds.
Start by running the wand along less sensitive areas of the body, like outer thighs and arms. When your partner is used to the sensation, start moving towards the inner thighs or nipples. If you’re pregnant or suffer from any kind of heart condition, you should avoid using electro-stimulation toys until you’ve consulted your GP.
Vibrating Silicone Anal Beads (€34.44, kinky.ie)
If you’ve already experienced the joys of anal play and fancy something a little different, this sexy set of silicone anal beads is guaranteed to give you an added thrill. Whether using solo, during foreplay or vaginal penetration, the vibrations can be felt through every bead from tip to top and are guaranteed to enhance your play!
Before inserting, ensure you’ve applied plenty of lube to your bullet and the area around the anus. We recommend Doc Johnson Relax Anal Relaxer (€18.36, kinky.ie) – a long-lasting, water-based formula that delicately warms and relaxes anal muscles for easy entry.
Gradually insert until you reach the final bead. You should feel full and satisfyingly stretched. If you’re looking for a more intense sensation, try pulling the beads out gently at the point of orgasm. The beads will pass along the two ringed sphincter muscles, triggering intensely pleasurable sensations.