Bondage can be kinky, fun, and a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. The act of restraining your partner offers new physical experiences and an intensified emotional connection. So, it’s no surprise that it is fast becoming one of the most popular ways for couples to spice up their sex lives and explore their naughty side!
Safety First
If you decide you want to give bondage a go, think about what you want from the experience and what you would like to try. Talk through your fantasies and listen to your partner’s expectations too. You should also discuss and pick a safeword – double check that you are both aware of the word and that when it is said the session is stopped completely.
Bondage is all about mixing pain and pleasure, but you must always be aware of your partner’s needs. Communication, whether verbal or physical, is what bondage is about. You should take note of your partners’ reactions and tailor your games and techniques to that. Paying attention to your partner’s safety is paramount, so avoid anything that could impair your judgement, such as alcohol or drugs. The same goes for you partner – alcohol numbs the senses and could result in serious injuries. As tempting as a few drinks may seem, skip the half bottle of wine and enjoy a sober and safe session instead.
Trying Bondage for The First Time
Once you’ve covered the basics, it’s time to invest in bondage equipment. There are many tools and terms to get to grips with, so take your time and do your research.
For first tie-ers, a bondage kit is an all-in-one solution for bondage scenarios. Often marketed for beginners, bedroom bondage kits usually include a pair of ankle cuffs, a pair of wrist cuffs, a blindfold and some form of whip, flogger or paddle. More advanced bondage kits can include ball gags, ticklers, collars and leads, ropes, bondage tape, spreader bars, and more elaborate restraints. Bondage kits are a wonderful way of building up your collection of bondage gear, and tend to work out cheaper than buying all items separately. Here are some of our favourites kits:
Pink Cheetah Bondage Kit (€68.90, kinky.ie)
Perfect for: beginners
Whether you want your lover’s body bound and at the mercy of your whims, or you just want their hands tied so they can’t hog the remote, the Fetish Fantasy Pink Cheetah Bondage Kit is for you. Luxurious velvety fabric caresses the skin while providing effective restraint.
Perfect for couples looking to try something fun and different, the Fetish Fantasy Pink Cheetah Bondage Kit is made from high-quality PVS and lined with plush cheetah-patterned velvet. The kit features a pair of wrist and ankle cuffs, a firm velvet-lined paddle, and a collar with a clip-on nylon leash. Completing the set is a plush-lined love mask, which moulds perfectly to your lovers face to ensure they won’t see a peep!
Amazing Bondage Sex Toy Kit (€40.20, kinky.ie)
Perfect for: those looking to mix pleasure and pain
Take the next step in fetish exploration and give your BDSM toybox and upgrade with this bondage kit. This kit is made for those who want to intensify play, and discover new erotic thrills with whip, nipple clamps, rope, and mouth gag.
Everything in this kit is designed to be a step up from beginner’s bondage, without being too intimidating. A breathable ball gag ensures your sub is effectively muffled while still allowing them to breathe easily during play. The nipple clamps can be easily adjusted, so you can increase the intensity if and when you’re both ready. Complete the sensory adventure by slipping the blindfold over your lover’s eyes and tease their body with the faux leather whip.
Sinful Bondage Kit (€57.41, kinky.ie)
Perfect for: those who like a bit of luxury
Restrain all four limbs and put your sub in any position you desire with this easy to use bondage kit. A set of four buckle fastened quilted cuffs adjust for comfort, while the hog tie and blindfold offer endless possibilities for experimentation!
No matter where you are or what erotic fun you’re exploring, this luxury bondage kit lends itself to a multitude of scenarios. Packaged in a contemporary box: this great kit is an absolute eye-catcher and will definitely entice lovers with its kinky contents.
Fetish Fantasy Series Extreme Hogtie Kit (€45.93, kinky.ie)
Perfect for: advanced restraint
Take total control over your lover’s every move with the Extreme Hogtie Kit. Simple but ultra-effective, this easy-to-use hogtie kit includes adjustable neoprene wrist and ankle cuffs, thick nylon straps, a heavy-duty metal O-ring, and deluxe metal buckles and clips, giving safe and reliable restriction during BDSM play for advanced restraint. The neoprene cuffs are comfortable and easy to adjust, and the nylon straps and metal buckles ensure your lover won’t slip away.