Chastity play is all about control – preventing access to the genitals for the purpose of sexual pleasure. It normally takes place in the bedroom as a sexual game rather than a lifestyle choice. One partner might lock their partner in a device to prevent them from becoming fully aroused so that once they are finally freed, they will be unable to control their full desire. This form of chastity play can add an intense new level of fun to your bedroom antics.
What at first seems to be a form of perverted torture is actually a way to spice up your sex life. If you are looking for an increase in sexual satisfaction, fabulous foreplay, or simply submissive servitude, chastity might be the perfect choice for you.
Types of Chastity Devices
There are three main types of chastity devices available. Each has its pros and cons, so take your time when choosing your device – you’ll thank us later!
Chastity Belt
As the name suggests, the device is attached to a belt for added security and comfort. A chastity belt is great for those partaking in prolonged chastity. However, due to the bulky nature of the device, it is more noticeable under clothing and does take a bit of getting used to. Maintaining good hygiene can also be a little difficult.
Chastity Cage
These are the most popular chastity devices due to their discreet, yet secure, design. Chastity cages such as the Hardcore Silicone Cock Blocker (€51.67, kinky.ie) feature vented slots which allows for natural ventilation and prevents the build-up of bacteria. Some devices have bars at the tip which can catch on foreskin or cause inflammation over prolonged period of time – check this before purchasing.
Chastity Tube
If you are looking for something lightweight, chastity tubes may be the right toy for you. They are unobtrusive, can be worn underneath clothing discreetly, and often feature a slot at the end for urination. However, there can be a build-up of moisture in the device which can lead to sores and bad odours.
Getting Started
When your device arrives, spend a while breaking it in and getting accustomed to the sensation. Apply plenty of lube to the areas of the device that will touch the skin for optimum comfort. If you intend on wearing the chastity device for long period of time, make sure you can tolerate the device first by wearing it for 2-3 hours every day. Gradually increase the amount of time and make sure there are no problems of pinching or burns on the skin. Once you can wear comfortably for 5-7 days, you are ready to play.
What you do next is up to your Key Holder! You’ll experience the pleasure of being the sole orgasm giver, catering to her every need, while she denies you what you so desperately crave. When your wish is finally granted you will experience a rush of extreme pleasure like never before.
Hygiene
If the device is worn for a long period, it will be necessary to clean the penis and device regularly. This can be done without opening the chastity device because a small amount of soap and a blast of warm shower water in the device, will be enough. The most important thing is making sure the penis stays dry – cotton buds will usually do the trick. Some use a hair dryer, but keep in mind if the device is made of metal it could burn the penis.
It will be necessary to remove the chastity device in order to clean it well, but that can be done when you have been to the toilet. Rinse the inside well and remove excess moisture with a cotton bud before wearing again. Washing the area around the genitalia often is also important. To reduce discomfort and prevent sores, apply lotion to the testicles and around the ring of the cage or tube to avoid friction.
Once you’ve become accustomed to wearing your chastity device, you can experiment with how to get the most out of your play. If you want to intensify chastity play, there are plenty of devices with added features, such as built in penis plus or electro play. Or you can simply combine chastity play with other BDSM elements such as nipple play, spanking, or bondage. The possibilities are endless!