So, you’ve already experimented with some beginner bondage kits and games and are looking to take it to the next level? Well, you’ve come to the right place. From role play to restraints and accessories – there’s a whole world of toys and tools to explore that cater to your desires, comfort zone, and lifestyle.
Safety First
When it comes to BDSM toys, it’s important to take extra care. Never make unrealistic demands of your body (or your partners), and always go for props and toys that you are both comfortable with and can ease yourself into slowly. Always use plenty of lube, making sure it is compatible with your chosen toy.
Bondage is all about mixing pain and pleasure, but you must always be aware of your partner’s needs. Communication, whether verbal or physical, is what bondage is about. You should take note of your partners’ reactions and tailor your games and techniques to that. Paying attention to your partner’s safety is paramount, so avoid anything that could impair your judgement, such as alcohol or drugs. The same goes for you partner – alcohol numbs the senses and could result in serious injuries. As tempting as a few drinks may seem, skip the half bottle of wine and enjoy a sober and safe session instead.
Role Play
So, you’ve tried some of the common role-play scenarios; teacher-headmaster, CEO-secretary, and doctor-nurse. Now it’s time to push the boundaries a little further. Choose a scene that will allow you both to explore your fantasies and, potentially, integrate other kinks for added fun. Bondage, spanking, tickling, mouth gags, temperature play…these can all be added to the right scene!
Animal role-play
This type of role-play won’t appeal to everyone; however, these scenarios lend themselves to countless BDSM undercurrents. This list is in no way extensive, but animal role-play can include:
Interrogation
One of the great things about interrogator scenes is that there’s potential for the roles to switch – the interrogator can become the interrogated, for example. This allows you and your partner to try both sides and see what really gets you going. Some scenes that you could try:
Some of the scenarios can be terrifying; some can be sexy; some can be hilarious; some can be a combination of all three. Only go as far as you want, and always discuss the scene before and after it takes place to get the most from the experience.
Toys, toys, toys…
You’ve already experimented with bondage tape and light restraints, so it’s time to take it up a notch.
Chain them up
When it comes to bondage techniques, some sturdy cuffs should be a staple of your toolbox. Cuffs comes in many shapes and sizes – catering to a range of tastes, such as red plush cuffs (€14.36) to some sexy Leather Wrist Cuffs (€34.44).
Cuffs that come with a quick-release button are great for those who are prone to losing things…like your keys! Most handcuffs come with this mechanism, but it’s something to keep in mind when browsing.
You should also consider the size of the handcuffs. . Some cuffs come in a variety of sizes (small, medium, large) – so, it may be useful to get the tape measure out and ensure that your cuffs will fit comfortably. Alternatively, opt for cuffs with fully adjustable buckle straps, like Padded Wrist Cuffs (€45.94).
Heat things up
Candles can do more than simply set the mood! Wax play is a form of advanced temperature play that introduces the idea of gently burning the skin – when applied carefully, your partner will be overwhelmed by waves of gratifying endorphins, experiencing a sensual high and squirming in agonising pleasure.
It’s important that you invest in the correct products. It’s always safest to use candles that have been specifically designed for this type of play, which have a lower melting point than your average high-street candle. However, if you do decide to purchase standard candles you should avoid beeswax, gel, and scented candles, which burn at a very high temperature and can result in second degree burns.
Another thing to consider is the potential mess this can create. Investing in a throw or cheap towels will shield your sheets from wax (and any other signs of your BDSM scenes) and reduce the workload of a post-session clean up.
Tickle your way to an orgasm
Feathers, when used correctly, can be very sexy and stimulating. Using a feather to tease a partner who is bound (or blindfolded) can be a fun and playful way to bring something new into the bedroom.
The tickler can be used to tease and stimulate her pleasure zones, and when combined with some firm spanking can lead to heightened anticipation and a bigger payoff for you both. It can even be used as part of an interrogation scene…