Whether you’re a seasoned veteran or a completely beginner, there is a potential for everyone to expand their sexual horizons. As with all things, there are a number of factors that can get in the way of fun. Whether it’s the cost, nerves, or simply the abundance of options available – this guide will point you in the right direction. Make 2017 the year to experiment with new implements, toys, kinks and role plays!
Bondage
Bondage can be kinky, fun, and a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. The act of restraining your partner offers new physical experiences and an intensified emotional connection. So it’s no surprise that it is fast becoming one of the most popular ways for couples to spice up their sex lives and explore their naughty side!
It can take a variety of forms, but the simplest and easiest to start with is a good-old set of cuffs. We recommend the Fetish Fantasy Beginner’s Metal Handcuffs (€ 10.55, kinky.ie). Light bondage is a great way to take your first step away from ‘vanilla’ sex and dip your toe in the ocean of BDSM!
Sensation Play
When you think about sex, what comes to mind first? Stroking, rubbing, grinding? But touch is only one of your five senses, so imagine how much better your sexual experiences might be if you incorporate the other four too?
Sensation play can take many forms, but is generally linked to activities that rely on sensations. It is typically viewed as light and gentle in contrast to the varying forms of BDSM, but sensation play can be integrated as part of a more extreme scene. Sensation play is made up of two parts: sensory deprivation and sensory modification.
The former is achieved through confiscating or handicapping at least one of the senses – the most common being sight. This can be achieved through a blindfold or hood. We recommend the Tease and Please Padded Blindfold (€ 5.85, kinky.ie). Restricting their sight will heighten their sense of touch, and they will only focus on what you’re doing and how great it feels. In addition, the feel of the material against the skin will only increase the sensory high.
Sensory modification is all about stimulating the senses. There are a variety of different toys and tools available to aid stimulation and deliver mind-blowing orgasmic fun. Temperature play is an ideal avenue to explore – it involves using objects and/or substances to stimulate the body’s neuroreceptors, resulting in a sexy sensual effect. This can include hot wax, beautiful glass dildos, and other toys that can be heated up or frozen. If you want to dive in and mess around, why not introduce ice to the bedroom? Hold it in your hand until it begins to melt, and then drip the ice-cool water over their abdomen. Warm your partner up again by kissing the area – it’ll drive them wild!
Anal Toys
Anal is becoming increasingly popular – around a third of Westerners have said they’ve tried it! It has often been portrayed as an uncomfortable and painful experience, but it doesn’t have to be this way! When done right it can be an incredibly satisfying and fun experience, and is definitely something worth exploring!
Anal toys are both enjoyable and easy to use. Nevertheless, there’s a few things to take into consideration before purchasing your first toy. Firstly, buy from a respected store and if possible, check the quality of the toy before purchasing. Choose a toy that is made from plastic or silicone, and avoid toys that are made from wood or glass at all costs. Anal toys are generally broader at the base to prevent it for being sucked too far into the rectum – keep this in mind when browsing, to avoid any nasty surprises later on. We recommend the Anal Fantasy Beginner’s Kit (€ 49.91, kinky.ie).
Before you get to the checkout, make sure that you buy plenty of lube. The anus and rectum don’t lubricate on their own, so they need a little help. Lube will reduce friction and will make the experience far more pleasurable. We recommend Pjur Back Door Water Comfort Anal Glide (€ 17.58, kinky.ie).