Well, it’s that time of year again. Another year is behind us – so we begin to reflect on the last 12 months and think of our New Year’s Resolutions. Instead of making the same old resolutions; why not plan to make the coming year a slightly kinkier year than this one? Because, well, sex is good and shouldn’t be forgotten when you’re trying to improve the way you’re living. Here are some kinky resolutions for the new year.
1. Take Stock of Your Sex Life
We all have a sexual identity, but if we were asked to describe exactly what defines us sexually, few of us would be able to do so. This is a crucial step towards knowing exactly what you want and giving you the ability and confidence to pursue it. Why not start the new year with writing a list of things you’ve experience, or fantasied about, or desired but never asked for? This enables you to reflect on the things you’ve enjoyed or think you might enjoy, and familiarise yourself with your sexuality.
2. Be More Spontaneous
Do you remember those carefree teenage years, when you could have sex whenever and wherever you felt like? Well it’s about time you started coming on to your girl on a whim. Make a commitment to not just have sex impulsively, but to kiss and nibble your partner passionately, rub their shoulders and stroke her for no reason. Don’t let your sex life get stale – show your girl how much you want her and prepare yourself for more passionate and exciting sex.
3. Make a Commitment to Spoil Yourself
Take the time to enjoy your own sexuality – whether it’s spending the night in with your favourite toys or treating yourself to some new lingerie on payday, these little treats will make you love yourself that little bit more.
4. Throw Some Toys Into The Mix
We don’t care what it is, but treat yourself and your partner to at least one new kinky item for your bedroom this year – sex swing, vibrator, a butt plug. Believe us when we say that these additions will really make the experience that much more memorable. If you need an excuse, Christmas is just around the corner. Alternatively, why not get your partner something extra special for Valentine’s Day?
5. Try New Positions
We all love missionary and girl on top, but there are plenty more positions out there to try. From variations on the classics, to the kinkier positions that may require some flexibility and toys; there are plenty of sexy positions waiting to be tried. It’s time to start exploring.
6. Try New Locations
Speaking of getting adventurous; why do most of us stick to the same old locations when it comes to sex? Sure, having sex on a bed is comfy and convenient, but 2015 is all about pushing the boundaries. Your home is full of potential sexy locations; the kitchen, dining room table, office chair, shower, staircase…and these are just the tip of the iceberg. Think of all the places you can try outside of the home. New locations can be exciting, wild and daring – embrace it and have a good time!
7. Vow to Talk More
Do you know what turns your partner on? Really? Just because she’s groaning when you lick her nipples, doesn’t mean it’s her favourite thing in the world. How will either of you ever know how to keep the other happy if you don’t really know what makes them tick? So start by telling you girl about one thing that turns you on. It could be a position you’d like to try, a toy you’d like to use, or a fantasy you’d like to enact. Then encourage them to do the same.
Sex is a conversation, and the better you are at communicating, the more satisfying your sex life will be.
8. Try Something Entirely Different
There are certainly benefits to stepping out of your comfort zone from time to time. Perhaps the idea of role play makes you want to hide under a table and rock gently back and forth. Of course, there are always limits – but you won’t know how much you and your partner can take unless you test them. Take a risk and enjoy the ride!
Make 2017 the year when you’re going to explore the world of sex to discover exactly what it is that turns you both on. Happy New Year!