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A Beginner’s Guide To Tantric Sex

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Have you ever wondered what tantric sex is all about?

Tantric sex is an ancient practice can help prolong your performance and increase arousal, resulting in better and more frequent orgasms. Don’t be intimidated by the name though – it’s a lot easier than you think! The main focus is on long lasting foreplay, delaying your orgasm through a variation of meditative techniques, breathing exercises, and massage.

What is It?

Tantric sex is based on ancient Indian scriptures from over 5,000 years ago, these scriptures describe the nine chakras within the body that control our energy levels. It is said that connecting with these chakras can rid our bodies of pain and enhance our emotions and senses. Not convinced?

On a basic level, it promotes slowing down your sexual pace to increase intimacy and create a stronger sexual connection that can lead to powerful orgasms. Sound better?

Dedicating the Time to Sex

With our busy schedules we are dedicating less and less time to the bedroom. Tantric sex is a way of giving you and your partner a few hours to yourselves. It is said that to create an explosive sexual connection there must be no distractions; you must focus on your partner only and nothing else. So, make the effort and time to connect with your partner and you will soon reap the benefits.

Setting the Mood

Tantric sex is about heightening your senses and enhancing your emotional state. So, start by turning down the lights and shutting off the rest of the world. Use scents, candles and music to stimulate your senses. Some use food too such as strawberries and chocolates to feed each other as part of the foreplay. Try a variety of combinations until you find the balance that works for you, and remember to relax and enjoy yourself.

The First Step

The first step is about feeling relaxed and comfortable in your surroundings. Stay off the bed if you can as it will trigger the sleep button in your brain, which means you’ll end up having a quick romp instead of building up slowly to the main event.

Once you are both ready, take it in turns to lightly stroke and tease your partner and take your time to leisurely make your way around their body – this will tingle and awaken the nerves. Brush close to the points of heightened sensation like the nipples, but do not touch these areas yet.

Don’t be afraid to experiment; try a variety of touches – firm massage, light feathery touches, and gentle stroking. The aim is to slowly build each other to a peak without going the whole way. Performed in the right way this can prolong sex and your pleasure for hours.

Breathing is also important. When you’re about to come, your breathing is usually shallow and hectic, so if you both focus on breathing deeply through your noses, you’re more likely to stay in control.

Merging the Sexual Energy

The above techniques have awoken and generated your sexual energy, and now it is time to merge these and create and intimate bond between you both. Turn to face each other and begin to massage your nipples, and begin swaying back and forth gently. As you do this, place your other hand on your partner’s shoulder and get them to do the same. For the first time, your sexual energies will come in contact with each other. It is said that you will feel the sexual energy flowing through you in waves.

Moving on From Foreplay

Depending on how strong your will power is, foreplay can last anything from 45 minutes to 5 hours! Once you both feel ready, you should sit face-to-face (this works better if you sit in his lap). Wrap your arms as tightly around one another and press your body against each other. This kind of skin contact promotes greater feelings of intimacy. Ensure you move and breathe slowly during sex and work towards a gradual build up of pleasure. The slower you both go, the more intense your orgasms will be.

Don’t Give Up

If you don’t last beyond 10 minutes, try again. Tantric sex takes time to get to grips with because it’s different to what we’re used to – this means we expect sex to have an obvious start, middle and end. With practice you can let go of this idea and enjoy sex without thinking about the conclusion – as well as be able to control your body – so you can delay climax and increase the strength of your orgasms.

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