Ass eating. Butt munching. Biting the peach. Rimming. Whatever you call it, it’s a sex staple for the adventurous among us who love playing in the backyard.
Rimming is the act of using your mouth to pleasure and stimulate the outside rim of the anus. It’s a technique that is often misunderstood and misrepresented, and many automatically dislike it before they have even given it a go.
If you’re already a fan of anal play, rimming is certainly a kink worth trying! The anus is packed with sensitive nerve-endings, and so it can be incredibly pleasurable for both men and women. Lots of couples enjoy rimming during foreplay, or as a sexy accompaniment to oral sex. For those who are new to anal, it’s a gentle and intimate way of experimenting for the first time.
Interested in trying rimming? Here’s a practical guide outlining everything you need to know in order to give and receive the perfect rim job.
Safety First
Rimming can be intensely pleasurable, but it goes without saying that hygiene is important. It’s important to shower and clean out your anus beforehand. Through washing before rimming, it reduces the risk of bacteria spreading, limits unpleasant smells and tastes for the giver, and helps the receiver relax in the knowledge that they won’t catch or stumble across anything unpleasant.
Give yourself a good wash in that area with an unscented soap, or for a thorough clean you can use an enema or anal douche like the Ultimate Anal Douche (€13.77, kinky.ie), which will ensure you’re clean for any anal play. Don’t rush your douching routine or you’ll have to hop in the shower again for another clean, and when someone’s mouth is at your butt and you’re trying to relax, you don’t want to accidentally release any trapped water still stuck up there — water that may or may not be clear.
If you or your partner are still worried about the spread of bacteria or infection, using a barrier could be the solution. Dental dams are flavoured shields that act as a thin barrier between your tongue and your partner. Un-lubricated condom, plastic wrap or latex will also do the job.
Finally, keep in mind that the anus can hold bacteria that isn’t vagina-friendly. So, if you want to switch between anal rimming and vaginal oral sex, use a barrier and change it between uses.
Your Diet is Important
Most people agree that diet has a big impact on the enjoyment and ease of rimming. Lean meats (not red meat), vegetables, sweet fruits, and foods that don’t cause gas (such as cabbage, onions, and broccoli) will make your butt smell and taste better. You can thank us later!
Fibrous foods will make your cleaning process quicker – it compacts your poo and helps you release everything in your colon. A healthy and natural way to douche.
Don’t Forget the Lube
When it comes to anal, lube is key. Flavoured lube is great for all oral sex, there are a host of flavour to choose from including, Cherry (€9.18, kinky.ie), Watermelon (€11.47, kinky.ie), and Bubblegum Blast (€11.47, kinky.ie) – so there’s something for everyone!
If you think you’ll be incorporating fingers, toys or penis into your play, then opt a long-lasting lubricant which you won’t need to reapply – you don’t want to ruin the moment once you’re into it. Choose a lubricant which is specifically for anal play like Spunk Hybrid Lube (€17.22, kinky.ie) and check that it’s compatible with any toys, dams or condoms you may be using.
Rimming is About More Than Tongue
When it comes to rimming, it is all about finding a technique that works for both you and your partner. So, take your time testing out a few different techniques, toys, and methods.
There’s no need to rush straight into using tongue. Begin by massaging their bum cheeks. After a while, start gently pulling the cheeks apart so the anus is exposed and gradually move your fingers closer to it. Mix it up a little and take your time kissing and sucking instead.
Divide your tongue duty between hole and the hypersensitive area around it, and don’t neglect the sensitive inner thighs, lower back, and testicles. Blowing warm or cold air onto the anus and the skin around it also works well, and a combination of both will feel incredible.
Your tongue is one of the strongest muscles in your body. Alternate between a flat tongue for gentle strokes, and a firm, pointed tip for pinpoint precision. Experiment with making patterns (such as spirals, quick dots, zig zags etc.), too. Not knowing what will come next will keep your partner quivering with anticipation!
Use Teeth Sparingly
Some experienced rimmers know how to use teeth (don’t suck in when your teeth are pressed on his hole). If your partner uses teeth and it feels good, consider this a pro move! Paired with the tongue, teeth can be a nice alternating feeling, a bit of hardness on a hypersensitive, soft, tender area. But avoid biting, nibbling, sucking, or get aggressive with teeth.