Masturbation is the one of the greatest and safest forms of sex that we can engage in, and yet many of us are embarrassed to get down and dirty with ourselves. There’s no reason why we should be ashamed – masturbation is free, fun, safe, and can be very kinky. If that’s not enough – science has shown that masturbating can also provide plenty of health benefits. From preventing cancer to making you harder and helping you last longer, masturbation can provide plenty of benefits!
According to a recent study in the US, approximately 90% of men and 74% of women have masturbated, and 27% admit to masturbating once or twice a week. So the chances that both you and your partner have taken some time to explore and play with yourselves is pretty high. Masturbation has many feel-great benefits and gives you a chance to get more intimate with your body, and by allowing your partner to watch (and vice versa) you will both come to know each other’s bodies better. Here are a few more reasons to take matters into your own hands. You’re welcome.
It’s A Treat for You Both
Men respond best to visual images and rely heavily on visual stimuli to get them in the mood. Watching your partner pleasure herself is not only amazingly sexy, but is pretty much guaranteed to have you panting with desire. Women need to feel turned on to get them turned on, so allowing them to explore and play with themselves will definitely turn the heat up! It’ll also give her a voyeuristic rush knowing that she is giving you a front row seat to such a sexy and intimate experience.
You Will Learn Something
Masturbating can be especially good to begin to learn more about what your partner likes and demonstrate what you like best. When it comes to pleasuring your partner, it takes finesse, a perfect technique, and dedication. When a woman takes the task into her own hands, it can take half the time and will push buttons that you’ve struggled to find. After all, no one knows how to pleasure your partner better than she does! Open communication with your partner will improve your sex life and relationship.
Everyone likes different things below the belt, and the best way to discover the right way to touch somebody is to let them show you what they like and how they like to be touched Get your partner to show you how she wants you to touch her, what pressure turns her on, how fast she wants you to go – she needs to show you exactly what she wants.
Mutual Masturbating
Instead of inviting yourself along to her next solo session, it’s safer to introduce the idea ahead of time. Even though most people continue to masturbate while in relationships, many couples hide their masturbation. Not everyone will be keen on the idea at first – so try talking through the session, discussing how you will both benefit, letting her know how sexy you think it would be, assure her she can go at her own pace and stop when she wants. The point is to get masturbation on the table and gage whether you and your partner are comfortable with the idea.
To set the scene and help her relax, try dimming the lights, lighting some candles, and turning on a sexy playlist. The first time might feel weird – for most people the easiest way to masturbate in front of a partner to begin with is by blindfolding or closing their eyes. When you’re ready, sit facing each other and take it in turns watching the other masturbate without any distractions. As she comes close to climaxing, try kissing her neck and running your hands through her hair and body for added fun.
Once you’re comfortable with mutual masturbation, it’s time to take it to the next level. Try playing with different positions and situations – try different pieces of furniture, different sex positions, add sex toys, and explore different fantasy scenarios for a kinky twist. Mutual masturbation can also mean masturbating together, but separately. Some make a game of it, trying to masturbate in sync so they finish at the same time. As you get closer to the edge, maintain eye contact and mimic each other’s rhythms as you stroke and play your way to mind-blowing orgasms. It’s kinky, intimate, and super sexy.