Not easily roped into bondage? Knot sure how you feel about being tied down?
Bondage can be kinky, fun, and a great way to spice things up in the bedroom. The act of restraining your partner can offer new physical experiences and an intensified emotional connection.
If you’ve decided you want to try bondage, you may feel a bit lost in terms of what restraints would be perfect for you and your partner. There are quite a few choices out there, but we want to make sure you end up with something that makes your first and future experiences perfect. Are there certain materials you should avoid? Do you need it to lock?
Don’t feel too overwhelmed; we’re here to help!
Safety First
If you decide you want to give bondage a go, think about what you want from the experience and what you would like to try. Talk through your fantasies and listen to your partner’s expectations too. You should also discuss and pick a safeword – double check that you are both aware of the word and that when it is said the session is stopped completely.
Bondage is all about mixing pain and pleasure, but you must always be aware of your partner’s needs. Communication, whether verbal or physical, is what bondage is about. You should take note of your partners’ reactions and tailor your games and techniques to that. Paying attention to your partner’s safety is paramount, so avoid anything that could impair your judgement, such as alcohol or drugs. The same goes for you partner – alcohol numbs the senses and could result in serious injuries. As tempting as a few drinks may seem, skip the half bottle of wine and enjoy a sober and safe session instead.
Check Your Size
When it comes to bondage techniques, some sturdy cuffs should be a staple of your toolbox. Cuffs comes in many shapes and sizes – catering to a range of tastes; from pink Fetish Fantasy Furry Cuffs (€14.36, kinky.ie) to some sexy Leather Wrist Cuffs (€34.44 kinky.ie).
The first thing you should consider is the size of the cuffs. Some cuffs come in a variety of sizes (small, medium, large) – so, it may be useful to get the tape measure out and ensure that your cuffs will fit comfortably. Alternatively, opt for cuffs with fully adjustable buckle straps, like Padded Wrist Cuffs (€45.94 kinky.ie).
Time to Escape?
Some cuffs are really difficult to get out of when you’re wearing them. Other cuffs are very easy. Some people really love the sensation of “not being able to escape,” but others will not be able to truly relax unless they know they can get out of their cuffs if needed. If you would like an easy way to escape, try cuffs with Velcro fastening such as SXY Cuffs (€26.40 kinky.ie).
Cuffs that come with a quick-release button are easy to get out of and are great for those who are prone to losing things; like the key. Most handcuffs come with this mechanism, but it’s something to keep in mind when browsing. Regardless of what you prefer, make sure you always have an escape plan in case there is an emergency.
Know Your Anchor Points
How do you plan on using your bondage cuffs? Sure, they could be the must-have accessory of 2018, but most people will want to use them for their designed purpose of restraint.
So, think about how you want to be bound after the restraints are on your body. Will you attach the cuffs to the bedposts? Will you want to attach them together? Many restraints feature a single O-ring for restraint purposes, but others have multiple O-rings or come equipped with clips to attach the cuffs to each other. The Fetish Fantasy Series Bedroom Bondage Kit (€68.90 kinky.ie), for example, features interlocking restraints and bedpost extensions that simply clip together and keep you fastened to your bedposts.
Start with a Bondage Kit?
For first time-ers, a bondage kit is an all-in-one solution for bondage scenarios. Often marketed for beginners, bedroom bondage kits usually include a pair of ankle cuffs, a pair of wrist cuffs, a blindfold and some form of whip, flogger or paddle. More advanced bondage kits can include ball gags, ticklers, collars and leads, ropes, bondage tape, spreader bars, and more elaborate restraints. Bondage kits are a wonderful way of building up your collection of bondage gear, and tend to work out cheaper than buying all items separately. If you’re curious about bondage or BDSM, this is the most cost-effective way to explore before purchasing more expensive toys.
The Fetish Fantasy Pink Cheetah Bondage Kit (€68.90 kinky.ie) is perfect for couples looking to try something fun and different. The kit is made from high-quality PVS and lined with plush cheetah-patterned velvet. It features a pair of wrist and ankle cuffs, a firm velvet-lined paddle, and a collar with a clip-on nylon leash. Completing the set is a plush-lined love mask, which moulds perfectly to your lovers face to ensure they won’t see a peep!