Sexting can be super-hot; it’s cheeky, sexy and very flirty. However, before you decide to snap a picture of your member and send it to your girl you might want to consider a few things first.
It Starts With Trust
Are you 100% sure that you trust your partner? Are they the type that might show their friends your sexy pics? Accidentally leave their phone on a table for others to find? Or even worse, upload them online if you go through a bad break up?
This may all sound over the top, but if there’s even a shadow of doubt in your mind, you may want to consider ways of sending sexy but safe pictures that can get your partner worked up, but will still protect your image. The easiest way of doing this is by sending a picture that doesn’t necessarily have to include your face. If you’re already nervous, you’ll relax more knowing that no one who accidentally stumbles across these pictures will know it’s you.
Don’t send anything you wouldn’t say
When it comes to sending texts or emails, we are often bolder than we would be in the flesh. If you wouldn’t say something out loud to your partner, you probably shouldn’t text it. The barrier and anonymity provided by texting and online interaction allows us to feel more comfortable when letting loose with our dirtiest talk – but use a little discretion. As mentioned above, a picture, text message or email leaves a technological footprint that could come back to haunt you if things turn sour.
The rule? When in doubt, do not sext.
Is she the sexting type?
When you flirt with someone, you assess their openness to flirting. This should also apply to sexting. If she strikes you as the time that’s not into receiving kinky pictures, then you might want to reconsider. Test the waters by sending some flirty texts and see if she responds, then let it build up from there. It’s generally a good rule of thumb to not sext anyone you haven’t already slept with.
The rule? Start slowly and don’t send sexts until you’ve already gotten busy between the sheets.
Words over images?
Honestly – women generally prefer words to pictures. A woman’s sexuality is largely mental, meaning that telling her what you’re going to do to her when you get together will be much more stimulating than a picture of you posing in front of the mirror. Text her some suggestions on what you could both get up to the next time you meet and you’ll have her blushing every time she checks her messages. Women enjoy using their imagination, so encourage her to send some suggestions too!
The rule? A man will have more success sticking to words when he’s sexting a woman rather than sending pics.
Think about your audience
This ties in with the point above – women are less turned on by images than men (who are far more visual when it comes to sex). If you do decided to send a picture, or if your girl requests one, keep in mind that women are less likely to fixate on a certain body part. Getting a picture of a girl’s rack will get a guy much more turned on than a woman would be looking at just a man’s penis. It may sound cliché, but women prefer the whole package.
The rule? A shot of your sexy body is a big, big turn-on. A shot of your erect penis is not.
And remember, at the end of the day you should only send pictures and messages that you feel comfortable with. Delete anything that makes you feel uncomfortable and be honest; if you want to strip her down and cover her in honey, great! But only say it if you mean it. The sexier you try to sound, the more forced and uncomfortable it will feel for both parties. Relax, have fun, and say as little or as much as you want. Happy sexting!