Impact play is a more extreme form of spanking; an intense pounding that is often done with the intent to cause deep tissue bruising and leave markings. It consists of one person, known as the ‘bottom’, being struck by another person, known as the ‘top’. Due to its recent popularity, there are plenty of specialised implements available including; floggers, whips, rods, switches, and canes to keep you busy!
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Safety First
It hits us hard when we find out that some couples don’t play safely. For example, there are some parts of the body that should be avoided always. Hitting these parts of the body could result in sever, sometimes fatal, damage. This includes:
Kidneys – these can be found in the back below the ribcage and above the butt. They are extremely delicate and it doesn’t take much to impact them.
Tailbone – this is at the base of the spine. A whip is unlikely to break it, but there’s still a possibility that it will. It’s just not worth the risk.
Spine – it’s easy to bruise as there’s not much protecting it and there’s always a chance that a disk would be dislodged after impact.
Neck – is a very sensitive area that is made up of arteries, tendons, glands, and of course the larynx.
Face – although slapping the face lightly is fine, there are a lot of areas on the face that can be easily damaged such as the eyes, jaw and ears. There’s also a risk of causing permanent damage.
Some implements have the potential to open the surface of the skin, either by cutting, scraping or by causing the weakened skin to break. Keep in mind that thin whips such as bullwhips and tightly braided cats have a smaller impact area and are more likely to cut. So, always remember to take the necessary precautions; don’t use porous canes with multiple partners, clean your equipment thoroughly and keep a first aid kit nearby, complete with latex gloves and antibacterial cleaner. Only progress to intermediate implements such as rubber floggers, leather cats and wide-tailed floggers once you are comfortable with the basics.
As with all forms of kink play, a safe word should be established so that the action can be stopped immediately should anything go wrong. Pick a word beforehand, making sure it is a word that is unlikely to be said by accident in the bedroom. It should be agreed that the safe word will only be used in serious situations, and that the scene will stop immediately if it is said by either party. If you are combining Impact play with gagging, a safe signal should be agreed upon or there should be a bell that that the bottom can ring when in distress.
Establish Hard Limits
It’s not just safe words that need to be discussed beforehand. Discussing limits with your partner will ensure that you are both as safe and comfortable as possible. Limits may be necessary due to a physical problem, such as an old injury, or a mental or emotional reason. Everyone has limits, so discuss these in detail, and respect them. If you try pushing these boundaries, it could have a serious impact on both your sex life and your relationship.
When starting out, it is best to make a rough plan of events – that way you both know what will happen, and when. This will prevent any nasty surprises and will ensure that you both get exactly what you want out of the experience.
Warm Up
As with any physical activity, the body needs to be prepared for what it is about to endure. So, whether clothed or naked, it’s time to get that adrenaline and blood pumping!
Building up to the experience is important; few people enjoy being smacked and whipped when they’re not in the mood. For some, an important part of the build-up is the smell and feel of the tool; for such those individuals, at various points before and during your session you should hold the implement near their face and allow him or her to smell it, kiss it, and so forth. For others, the act of being put in restraints will get them in the mood; if you are putting wrist restraints on your partner, do so slowly. The anticipation is part of the fun!
First things first; which part of the body are you planning to spank? As mentioned above, avoid the key areas that can lead to long term damage. It may come as no surprise, but the bottom is the safest (and most fun) area to start with. As with most sexual experiences, it is best to begin slowly and gently, progressing to greater intensities as you become comfortable. Let it begin softly, and build as endorphin levels rise to stronger strokes. Generally, it takes 15-20 minutes for endorphin levels in the body to increase.
Another tell-tale sign is to keep an eye on the skin; most skin exhibits redness when it is warmed up to the point where harder strokes and smacks may be given.
Varying sensations will stop the scene from becoming too boring or predictable. Stop occasionally during your session, and run something along the area that has been spanked; an ice cube, silk scarf, your fingers….there’s plenty to experiment with!