There’s an old saying: ‘When you have him by his balls, his heart and mind will follow’. Well, nothing is more true in the context of FemDom/malesub play!
So what’s the appeal? Being the most sensitive parts of the body, the area is full of nerve endings that release a wave of endorphins when stimulated. The effect is similar to that of codeine or morphine – an incredible rush and a ‘natural high’. The increased blood flow to the area makes it incredibly sensitive, enhancing your sexual experience and resulting in multiple mind-blowing orgasms.
The Male Genitals
The penis consists of four components: first, the skin which covers all parts of the male genitals. The more the skin is stretched the more sensitive it becomes. The skin of the scrotal sac is thicker than the skin elsewhere, which makes it perfect for stretching with tools and toys. In other areas, especially the cockhead, the skin is very thin and sensitive – keep this in mind when choosing which areas to play with.
The second component is the corpa cavernosa – a pair of spongy tissue reservoirs that run the length of the penis. These are the organs that cause the penis to swell; when empty the penis is soft, and when filled with blood they cause the penis to harden and grow longer. Gripping or holding the penis firmly will often be enough to cause an automatic swelling reflex.
Then there’s the cockhead, or tip of the penis. The ridge at the base of the head is the corona, and is the most sensitive part of the cockhead in more men. The final component is the urethra, the duct that empties both urine and semen.
The scrotum sac are extremely sensitive and well equipped with pressure sensing nerves. There is a lot you can do with them, but they should be handled with care!
With the biology lesson done, let’s concentrate on the fun…
Safety First
As with most elements of BDSM, always discuss and pick a safeword and double check that you are both aware of the word and that when it is said the session is stopped completely.
The biggest safety concern with CBT is circulation – increased pressure in the area can result in cutting off circulation completely. The Dom should keep an eye out for symptoms such as loss in sensation, loss of colour, or swelling. CBT is all about mixing pain and pleasure, but you must always be aware of your partner’s needs. Communicate and take note of your partners’ reactions and tailor your games and techniques to that. Paying attention to your partner’s safety is paramount, so avoid anything that could impair your judgement, such as alcohol or drugs. The same goes for you partner – alcohol numbs the senses and could result in serious injuries.
It is quite normal to experience a dull ache in the testicles post-session, but this should not last for a prolonged period of time. If the pain persists, you feel continually nauseous, or you notice any swelling or blood spots underneath the skin – seek medical attention immediately.
CBT Types
If you decide you might like to give CBT a go, it’s worth thinking about what exactly you both want from the experience and what exactly would you both like to try. There are many ways you can reach your CBT goals, so we’ve listed some of the more common CBT types to give you an idea of how you can achieve your sexual goals.
Ball Crushing
A ball crusher is designed to gradually squeeze the testicles with every turn of the screw – it’s up to the Dom to decide how tight she wants to go and how much punishment she wants to inflict on her partner.
Ball Stretching
If the name hasn’t given it away, ball stretching is the act of gradually applying pressure to the scrotum, which stretches and pulls it downwards and away from the body. If weights are a little too much, you can start by asking your partner to gently tug on your scrotum – tugging a little harder each time.
Cockring
If there is one fun and cheap toy you should get, it’s a cockring. These are great for those new to CBT; it plays with some basic ideas and sensations with very few risks. The ring is placed at the base of the penis which prolongs erections and holds back ejaculation. It also opens up all sorts of other kinks fun, like attaching a chain to it and leading your partner around by it!
We recommend: Soft Silicone Cockring (€ 7.61, kinky.ie)
Genital Spanking
When it comes to any form of BDSM, you can’t beat a good old fashioned spanking! Hands, floggers, and whips all work well – just don’t hit too hard.
We recommend: Sportsheets The Thriller Crop (€ 31.97, kinky.ie)
Sensory Play
Sensory play can include temperature play, electro-play, and needle play. For beginners, placing ice or cool metal objects on and around the testicles will have your partner squirming with excitement. If you want to turn the heat up, drip wax or sprinkle hot liquids over those sensitive areas. Toys such as pinwheels or electro-stimulation devices will deliver shocking and pleasurable results.
We recommend: Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Cock Cage: (€ 63.96, kinky.ie)