We are often told that pornography promotes acts and ideas that are destructive to relationships and our general state of being. But, did you know that around 45% of couples watch porn together? Communicating about sex is important and if you can work a mutual interest of porn into your sex life, you will soon notice the benefits! Firstly, watching porn together will allow you to learn more about what your partner does and does not enjoy, and is a sure way to spice up your sex life. A few more benefits are listed below.
It’s an Intimate Experience
Couples who share a hobby are investing in the longevity of their relationship. This works with sexual experiences too; porn can help foster and develop an emotional and sexual intimacy. We are not saying that you can’t go solo, but occasionally including your partner in your porn consumption could lead to a whole new world of fun.
It Gives You a Chance to Learn More About Their Fantasies
Fantasising is part of a healthy sex life and should be encouraged – porn can help expand the variety of sexual scenarios in our heads. Some may find it difficult sharing their sexual fantasies, some may be embarrassed, and some may not even be aware of what it is that gets them hot under the collar. Luckily, the internet has provided us with a smorgasbord of various positions, locations, toys and sexual acts to explore. Take the time to search online for porn that shows, or at least touches upon, your desires. If you can’t seem to find the words to tell your partner what turns you on, porn may say it all.
It’s a Kinky Form of Foreplay
With people working more hours and our day-to-day lives becoming increasingly hectic, our sex lives seem to be taking but the backseat. This shouldn’t be the case. . If time is of the essence, or you have young children/flatmates who are likely to stumble in at some point – using porn is not only breaking the monotony of regular foreplay but could speed up your foreplay and inject some excitement into your sex life.
McGill University recently published a paper which showed that both men and women display signs of arousal within 30 seconds of watching porn. The study also focused on the time it took for men and women to reach maximum arousal – men taking around 11 minutes, while women take 12 minutes.
Just in Case You Needed More Convincing…
In most cases, if you’re sexually satisfied by your partner, you are unlikely to look for gratification elsewhere. Watching porn shouldn’t be seen as a form of cheating; it simply confirms that we enjoy variety. Allowing your partner to watch an amateur or professional getting it on will not wreck your relationship – in fact, it is likely to boost it. Watching porn together allows you both to open up about your habits, instead of hiding or ignoring them. There’s no need to clear you browsing history anymore!
Touching on the above point; we are all prone to feeling insecure and jealous of others, but we need to accept that it is normal to be turned on by more than one person. Watching porn together allows you to see your partner’s arousal at the image of another man or woman, but it is you that they will want once the movie ends! Arousal is simply a biological response to a stimulus, it is natural, often unavoidable, and there is no need to feel threatened by them. Watching porn together could reduce any anxiety or worry you have about your partner straying and lead to a stronger, healthier relationship.