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How To Finger a Woman – An Expert Guide

A woman having an orgasm

Do you like getting your hands wet?

Fingering is both pleasurable for you and your partner, especially if you like to watch her body wriggle up and down as she cums. Sometimes going back to the basics is all you need to spice things up a little.

Safety First

It’s really important to have clean, well-groomed hands when you’re touching your partner’s genitals. Keep your fingernails trimmed to avoid scratching her sensitive skin. You also want to make sure to wash your hands right before getting down to business, to protect her from possible infections.

Slow it Down

Unless your partner gets wet by the sight of your hot body, you can’t just dive in straight away. You wouldn’t jump into the shallow end of the pool, would you?

Get your partner in the mood by trailing a finger over her thighs or stimulate the area around the vagina and clitoris with your mouth, tongue, or a well-lubed finger. Don’t neglect the rest of her body; many women can’t orgasm through G-spot stimulation alone, so give plenty of attention to her breasts, ass, neck, and clit.

Use Lube

The skin in and around a woman’s genitals can be quite delicate and you could easily pull and tug at her skin while fingering. Applying a generous amount of lube to your fingers and the opening of her vagina will reduce the risk of discomfort.

A silicone based lube, such as PJUR Original Bodyglide (€14.92, kinky.ie), doesn’t dry out easily and will help your fingers glide and move around easily. For something a little different, Durex Play Tingle (€6.88, kinky.ie), will not only decrease any discomfort, but it will also increase her sensitivity and gives a wonderful tingling sensation.

Techniques

Every woman’s body responds differently, so you’ll want to play around with a few different ways of touching her to figure out what she likes best. There’s no need to go crazy with a variety of techniques; just give her a few options. In general, women like one of three different approaches: clitoral stroking, penetration with your fingers, or stimulating two areas at the same time.

1) The Clit-Rubber

For most women, the clitoris is the place to stimulate. Start off by kissing her gently and rubbing other sensitive areas of her body, such as her inner thighs, neck and nipples. When you’re both ready, use the tips of your fingers to rub her clitoris softly in a circular motion. Listen to her moans and groans, they will let you know when you’re hitting the spot. Continue your pace and when she’s ready, slowly begin to increase speed.

Some women will want you to keep going at an increased speed without stopping, however, others like it when you take a break and insert your fingers into her vagina instead. Again, it all depends on her reaction – and don’t be afraid to ask her what she likes and to guide your movements.

2) Tapping the G-Spot

If you stimulate the G-spot correctly it’ll feel amazing. The best way to do this is to sit in front of her with your palm facing up, insert your fingers inside her and make a “come hither” motion. Imagine that you are tapping her belly button from the inside. This will, in effect, be tapping her G-spot. Start off slow and gentle, and judging by her reaction you can begin to increase the speed but keep the same rhythm.

3) The Explorer

If you and your partner have explored anal play before or are looking to try something a little kinky in the bedroom, this one could be a sexy and exciting experience for you both. While you’re using your index and middle fingers in her vagina, stick your pinkie finger in her anus (your hand must be sideways for this, and use plenty of lube!). While you go in and out, both holes will be stimulated simultaneously. Again, this will feel amazing. Keep in mind that after you place a finger into her anus, that finger cannot be placed anywhere else as it may lead to an infection.

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