Erotic spanking can take you on a journey of sensations from warm and gentle, to thrilling spikes of pleasure and orgasmic release. It can seem a little daunting at first, but with the right technique and practice, it can create the sexual intensity that you and your partner crave. Not convinced? Here are 5 reasons why you should give it a go;
1. A wonderful, natural high
Spanking increases the blood flow to the nearby genitals and causes a spike in adrenaline. They interact with the opiate receptor, having an effect similar to morphine or codeine. This results in a euphoric natural high, and in some cases it can even lead to an altered state of consciousness. There is nothing quite like it!
2. Talking of increased blood flow…
The increase is blood flow to the genitals makes it all the more susceptible to every gentle touch, kiss, and lick. Why not combine spanking with some intense sensation play? Or introduce torturous tools through cock and ball torture (CBT) or electro play? Make the most of that heightened sensitivity!
3. Power is sexy
We all enjoy the driver’s seat from time to time, but it’s always incredible hot to see our partners’ taking command in the bedroom. We are more than happy to be on the receiving end of their domination!
4. Let’s spice things up…
No matter how kinky you are, the best of us can fall into a stagnant routine. There are many, many ways that we are wired for pleasure. We all have our kinks, so explore them to the full! Whether you add some sensual spanking or full-on flogging, the combination of pain and pleasure is sure to bring you over the edge.
5. Be prepared for an intense emotional connection
Sharing new experiences with your partner will naturally bring you closer together. Spanking involves a level of trust that you never though possible, as boundaries are pushed but never overstepped, and you’ll both connect on an entirely new emotional level. One study even found that couples who partake in BDSM had a hormonal reaction that lead to the feeling of increased levels of intimacy after play.
Safety first
As with any form of kink, there is a risk of injury. It is common for the bottom to acquire bruises from spanking and flogging, but this is nothing to be concerned about. Stick to more muscular or fatty areas of the body, such as the buttocks and upper thighs. Keep floggers and whips away from the face and eyes. To limit swelling and reduce pain, apply an ice pack or a cool moisturiser, like aloe vera gel, to the area for around 30 minutes after the scene has ended. Continue to do this a few times a day until the swelling has completely gone. If the bruises have not vanished after four weeks, make an appointment with your GP to check that you haven’t strained or damaged the muscles.
There is also the risk of the skin breaking, especially when using canes, whips and other long range implements. Don’t play if you have taken blood thinning medication, including Warfarin or Aspirin. Keep a first aid kit nearby with antibacterial cleaner and plasters, and if deep cuts occur, stop immediately.
When trying any kind of BDSM play for the first time, it is important to pick a safe word. A word that both of you agree on that won’t accidentally slip out during the fun. It’s worth agreeing too that once this safe word has been used, the session is over.
Starting Off
Remember; foreplay is key. Not only will it get the bum nice and ready for what’s coming, but it will also drive your partner crazy with anticipation! Start by gently massage the area in a circular motion and squeeze the skin to increase blood flow. Then try some light swats with the palm of your hand until the area is a rosy pink colour; this means the bum is ready for a firmer spanking. You can always pro-long the foreplay by rubbing and caressing the area after each swat, the combination of sensations will intensify the situation and drive your partner wild.
For first time spankers, hands are usually enough: it gives you the opportunity to control your strength and stay aware of how hard you’re spanking. Cup your hand slightly, with your fingers together and spank lightly in an upward motion. Once you’ve become comfortable with the spanking, play with pressures and rhythms to see what your partner does and doesn’t enjoy.
If you want to take spanking even further, invest in a leather paddle (€34.44, kinky.ie). This will allow a greater range of movement and the different texture will give you some unique sensations too. Only move on to these when both of you feel ready. Always take the time to check that you are both comfortable with what’s going on and that you remember your keywords.