Is your partner giving you too much lip? Do you need some peace and quiet when carrying out your sexy and sadistic sessions? Then look no further.
Bondage gags may seem intimidating at first, but they guarantee to enhance your sex play and add an exciting edge to dom and sub play. Not convinced yet? Here are 5 reasons why you should give it a go;
1. Let’s spice things up…
No matter how kinky you are, the best of us can fall into a stagnant routine. There are many, many ways that we are wired for pleasure. We all have our kinks, so explore them to the full!
2. Power is sexy
We all enjoy the driver’s seat from time to time, but it’s always incredible hot to see our partners’ taking command in the bedroom. We are more than happy to be on the receiving end of their domination!
3. An intense and mind-blowing orgasm
Without being able to release tension and energy orally, it will build up inside until it finds its way to a more explosive release. Processing this pleasure internally will not only lead to unqiue sensations – expect to experience some intense and out-of-this-world orgasms!
4. It’ll create an intense emotional connection
Sharing new experiences with your partner will naturally bring you closer together. Being gagged involves a level of trust that you never though possible – without speech, the sub no longer has a say in their sexual satisfaction. Boundaries are pushed but never overstepped, so you’ll both connect on an entirely new emotional level. One study even found that couples who partake in BDSM had a hormonal reaction that lead to the feeling of increased levels of intimacy after play. So, giving up control is an exchange worth making!
5. Bondage is hot
Firstly, it’s a common misconception that a gag will completely silence a sub. However, the muffled sounds can be incredibly sexy, as well as keeping noise to a minimum during your pleasing and teasing session.
If that’s not got you hot under the collar, imagine your partner’s luscious lips pressing tightly against a gag as their squirm and moan with pleasure. You could even add a blindfold, some light bondage, or a naughty nurse outfit for a deviant doctor scene. You’ll both be gagging for more!
So, you’ve finally got a taste of why you should play with gags?
Safety First
As with all kinks, there are things to keep in mind for safety’s sake. First of all, your sub won’t be able to speak when they’re wearing a ball gag, so you will need to find a new way for them to use their safeword. Non-verbal safe words can involve snapping fingers, having your sub hold a bell that they can ring when they want the scene to end or honking a bicycle horn. Communicate with your partner to find what’s best for you both, and double check that you are both aware of the sign/signal and that when it is given the session is stopped completely.
Paying attention to your partner’s safety is paramount, so avoid anything that could impair your judgement, such as alcohol or drugs. The same goes for you partner – alcohol numbs the senses and could result in serious injuries. As tempting as a few drinks may seem, skip the half bottle of wine and enjoy a sober and safe session instead. Avoid gagging your partner if they have a cold, an upset stomach, or are having difficulty breathing due to illness or an allergy. Finally, do not leave your gagged sub unattended at any time.
Choosing a Gag
Be careful what you put in your mouth. The following gags are recommended for beginners.
Bit Gag
Bit Gags are perfect for those who love a bit of horsing around. These are more commonly used by Pony Play enthusiasts, as the large O-rings on either side of the gag can be used to add reins, restraints, and other equipment for your scene. However, many prefer Bit Gags as they can sit a little easier in the mouth, providing more comfort.
We recommend: Fetish Fantasy Series Silicone Bit Gag (€22.96, kinky.ie)
Breathable Gags
Ball Gags will incapacitate the mouth and restrict your partner’s ability to taste. Ball gags are generally not recommended for beginners as they restrict breathing and can be painful on the jaw. However, breathable gags such as the Fetish Fantasy Breathable Ball Gag (€22.96, kinky.ie) are perfect for those new to being gagged. They are light weight, comfortable, and come with holes cut out to allow for easy breathing and comfort.
Inflatable Gags
Gags aren’t designed to fit everyone. If you’re struggling to find a comfortable and suitable gag, an inflatable piece might be the perfect gag for you. They are fully adjustable for a custom fit, starting off small and inflated to the desired size.
We recommend: Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Ball Gag (€ 34.44, kinky.ie).
When using a gag, start slowly. Slide it in gently, giving your partner a moment to adjust before you secure the straps. If your partner complains that their jaw is aching, it means you’ll need something smaller. Once the gag is in, it won’t make your sub completely silent but they will be unable to talk, so you’ll need to pay extra attention to their body language to make sure they’re not in pain or distress. Instead of safewords, a signal should be established beforehand.